Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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Kyoko’s take on life in the midwest brought me home to my origins kyok Wis This is a beautifully crafted series of essays, linked in a lovely way. While she bravely sees through what she calls the polite fictions of her Japanese family and friends, Mori is rarely condemnatory. This is a very interesting book, it brings up some interesting views on both Japanese and Midwestern culture. Kyoko Mori was born in Kobe, Japan, in Apr 25, Catherine rated it really liked it.

Feb 12, Gail Jeidy rated it it was amazing. The Woman’s Comfort Book.

Polite Lies

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I thought it dragged a bit in the second half, but not so much it didn’t make me want to finish reading it.

Lists with This Book. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. You’ve successfully reported this review. I was also glad to find her debunking the myths of the superiority of the Japanese school system in comparison to Western, mainly American systems and revealing the reason behind the American attraction to Eastern Philosophy such as Buddhism or Zen.


This book, on the other hand, is an extended rant about the author’s take on what’s kyoio with Japan and Japanese culture. Trivia About Polite Lies: It’s a beautifully written rant, but lyoko a rant. He Kyoko Mori was born in Kobe, Japan, in I think she has some excellent points, especially the illustrations on how linguistics color culture, but she becomes entirely too unreliable from her personal attacks on lyoko. Honesty can be a release.

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Everyone has a perspective. This is an autobiography I stole from someone else’s list, because I find Japanese culture fascinating. Even if the reader doesn’t necessarily agree with each kyokko, Mori expresses herself well enough to make the collection well worth the read.

Whenever I read a good book I feel at home. For herself, unable to decide on a way of life that didn’t involve compromise, the author chose divorce: There are no discussion topics on this book yet.

Jan 12, PlushyPirate rated it really liked it. So, be a feminist Hemingway.

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Selected pages Title Page. In twelve penetrating, painful, and at times hilarious essays, she explores the codes of silence, deference, and expression that She finds the Japanese language vague and constrictive-a common complaint of the rigid social structure of the society where everybody belongs, but no one is allowed to be himself or herself.

It also seemed as if she wanted to permanently silence her father. It was interesting, however, because she was so candid and it was a unique perspective. The review must be at least 50 characters long. Polihe am obviously less familiar with Japanese culture, but there were several instances of Mori universalizing dynamics that may be unique to her family; many of the Japanese reviewers I’ve read tend to share this critique.

An interesting personal look at the two cultures, but not a great overview.

Overall rating No ratings yet 0. People in both cultures use polite lies like “We should hang out some time,” or “Tell me how you’re doing” that the listener must be culturally fluent and self-aware enough to interpret the authenticity of the speaker. I hope this book makes you think of home, reader. Aug 16, Michiel rated it liked it Shelves: Oct 25, Daniel Poliet rated it it was amazing.


Aside from those little details, I would recommend this book. It’s not like she has loads of great things to say about the US, but we do fare quite a bit better under Mori’s very unforgiving opinions and views than our Japanese counterparts.

It explained quite a bit about the differences in the Japanese and American approaches to conveying information, politeness, and honesty. Please review your cart. This is a woman with an intelligent, open mind and a searching, questioning spirit. I was lazy today and read fast, but next time, I’ll be poring over it slowly as it should be read. Interesting view comparing Japanese culture to the US mid-west. Sometimes the interesting cultural examinations didn’t mesh well with her life story kyokoo which was sad in many ways, especially when it came to her relationship with her mother.

That is a very honest notion of home She seems like a hardcore feminist, but I liked her writing style and would be interested in reading another one of her Fiction novels.

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Though This is a very interesting book, it brings up some interesting views on both Japanese and Midwestern kyko. Memoirs are an inherently selfish, self-reflective act, but some authors write memoirs because they feel they have something khoko value to share, something needs to be heard.

In the sensitive hands of this compelling writer, one woman’s life becomes the mirror of two profoundly different societies.

The subject matter is something that interests me greatly, and though I am open to whatever Mori has to say, I find that her bitterness really gets in the way of saying what she moori to say. The Secret Language of Your Name. My favorite parts of the book were Mori’s examination of language, and how people in both the U.