We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Love is a pleasant sensation of comfort we feel when we’re close to a special person. LIVRO EM DESTAQUE. DR. FLÁVIO NO YOUTUBE. Assine o FEED do canal do Dr. Flávio no Youtube e mantenha-se atualizado conforme novos vídeos são. As for his theoretic work, in he presented studies about sex therapy; his first and critically acclaimed book, published in , was about sex, love, and.

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Cruelty is possibly best defined as an action that will deliberately bring harm others.

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However, this pursuit of clarity has caused his content, on occasion, to be dismissed as simplistic. Individualism is a word that can generate controversy and misunderstandings.

Many of us fear being alone, for reasons that can be somewhat inconsistent. Up to that point, they had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort such as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love.

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We need to take a look at how vanity interferes with the way we evaluate people and their importance. Gikovate has seen, in his private practice, about patients.

The romantic concept of one person as a solution that will bring us happiness is destined to disappear. His books, usually, hit the top of sales for theoretic, dense essays in Brazil about 40, copies each, along liros years. Why do we fall in love with a specific person? Cinema Paradiso, that won the Academy Award for Best Foreign Movie, was one of the most beautiful and touching films of its time.

Fear of Happiness

His book about freedom hit 40, copies. This fear is sometimes associated with the pain we feel right after a breakup and, of course, losing the comfort that comes from a relationship, even a problematic one, is difficult.

What makes so many women and men offer explanations to an angry spouse, when they come home late from work? But exactly because some couples do live happily together, we should do our best to be a part of this exclusive club. Freud proposed a theory to explain these aggressive, self-destructive tendencies: Romantic love assumes that people are a fraction who must find their other half to be complete. We often hear that strong-willed people, who react forcefully when displeased, are strong.


His practice, however, remains his main activity. That generates insecurity, because unpleasant and painful things can happen at any moment. Headstrong people are considered strong mainly because they impose their will on others, usually through fear of their anger and their ability to create drama.

Many of us fear being alone, for reasons that can be somewhat inconsistent.

What makes so many women and men offer explanations to an angry spouse, when they come home late from work? Sex is one of the topics most spoken and written about.

They now associate harmony with a disaster that will destroy their happiness; after all, their uterine peace was destroyed, and they still fear that similar feelings will have a similar ending.

The first sign of strength in a human being is resignation in the face of our lack of control over some crucial matters in life. Once they learn this, they become less judgmental, more respectful and understanding. Based on his believe that sex and love are two autonomous and often antagonistic impulses, Gikovate points out the strong association between sexuality and aggressiveness especially in men.

Why do we fall in love with a specific person? His 20 most serious, adult-oriented books have sold aboutin all these years. He is also a frequent guest at the top-rated, most respected talk shows in Brazilian TV. These are beliefs, inherited points of view. A clear separation between love and sex; 2.

The truth, however, is that the fear of happiness seems to be universal, and I have never met anyone who did not feel it to some extent. As adults, our gikovatw reproduce what we felt in the earliest stages of our lives with our mothers: After all, if we acknowledge that each brain is unique, and the way one person thinks is in not a frame of reference to understand others, we realize that we do not need to bend someone else to our standards.

fear | Dr. Flávio Gikovate

This could bring about couples formed by fair people, more mature to experience love. We get involved with someone else because we feel incomplete. Then I figured out that these feelings are at the root of all human superstitious rituals, whether new or ancient. Learning to live with happiness and not run away from situations in which it appears is a suitable act of bravery.

Its rights have been sold to Spanish speaking countries, as well to the Middle East. A criticism of the traditional set of values; hr very clearly and courageously sees both selfish and generous personas as flawed; Selfishness exists only when juxtaposed against overt generosity or goodness ; however, a search for fairness could be the answer for both social and individual relationship problems.


Almost everyone I know cried at least once during the movie. Later, I realized that people also seem to feel like tragedy is about to strike whenever they are successful at any important endeavor, be it work, sports or financial gains. But exactly because some couples do live happily together, we should do our best to be a part of this exclusive club. This assumption is also at the root of the theory that opposites attract, in which a partner should be what the other, supposedly incomplete person, is not; if one is quiet, the other should be combative, for instance.

I suddenly realized that when people fall in love they start living in a constant state of alert—of panic, even—as if they expected a tragedy to befall them at any moment. At any other time, they react explosively and their outbursts can be scary; maybe those who are afraid of them are the ones responsible for calling out-of-control people strong, because they always submit to their will.

Children experience a major developmental leap in their second year: These days, with all the technology that allows people to be completely self-sufficient, they are losing their fear of being alone and learning to live better with themselves. But as for the really important stuff — health issues, the success or failure of their professional endeavors, studies or investments, natural tragedies such as floods, landslides and earthquakes and the death of loved ones — well, none of us has power over these issues.

It has been translated to English, as well, and has been published in Italy already. I always use a controversial analogy to try to explain the human condition: For instance, his most recent book — Evil, Good and Beyond has sold 24, copies in 24 months, and is still going strong, sales-wise.

For instance, he never shied away from using pharmacology when necessary, and benefited from experiences with psychoanalytic treatment, which he attended for five years, and behaviorist therapy he learned in the University of London in